6 Tips when you’re geographically separated with your beau
It takes two people to have the standard type of relationship, and if you’re in a long-distance relationship or LDR, having a stable Wi-Fi connection is a must. Kidding aside although it makes a point, rather I meant strong foundation of trust is also a must. LDR is not so different than the normal relationship, the added challenge here is how you will keep each other while you’re geographically separated.
To make it fun and exciting, I am giving TIPS to make sure you last together. #guaranteed and #tested by couples I asked in LDR, also from those who experienced it, A.K.A. me. So, here are some reads for you to turn things around and some rules we made that worked for us and could work for you.
#1.
Trust
Trust is something that both parties build together for them to feel safe to rely on the other person. I know it’s hard to invest trust when you don’t see the person all the time but giving your one hundred percent trust to your significant other will solve almost all your problems to rise. Remember, the only acceptable secret to keep is when you’re planning to surprise him/her. Additional, keep each other updated with each activity and be transparent. NEVER ever lie. A wise man said, “Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable.”
#2
Communication
This is essential. No relationship (even non-LDR ones) will work if they don’t speak with each other. Always find time to communicate. If you are busy and can’t find time, just give a heads up to your partner that you can’t make it to your “babe time.” When you found the time to keep Skype alive, make sure you don’t just talk AT your partner, talk WITH him/her. Always add spice to your topics, don’t video call (VC) just because it’s time to. This is important; know the difference between the two. It can’t be a routine even if it’s scheduled. Keep in mind that there are also instances when it’s acceptable to skip babe time, this time, let it go and don’t pressure them. Even if you are far apart, overly clingy has bad sides too.
#3
Effort
Being there for the other person and making the effort to give time each day even on your busy days, shouldn’t feel like it is a responsibility. Know each other’s schedule so you can organize your time table. If you’re receiving this kind of effort from your partner and it’s CONSTANT, learn to appreciate this effort because it’s A++. Remember, different locations could mean different time zones too and that means more efforts should be done from both ends. Efforts take a lot of work, but if it is to make your partner happy, it is worth it.
#4
Patience
Of course, you and your partner aren’t stuck with the distance, unless you prefer it. Plan your future, break down your goals/bucket lists into short term, midterm and long term. This way when you target your goals, you can easily achieve them. One fun way is to talk about your next meet-ups, plan your trips and make to-do together lists. Positivity is the key, don’t dwell on being away from each other, instead, I recommend to always look up to the day when you are meeting again.
#5
Respect
It’s never appropriate to tolerate disrespect from one because of “love” and this is one way to lead you to bye-byes when you do. Respect each other’s differences, value each other’s independence, set each other’s boundaries and give each other freedom. Not being able to be with our partners physically may serve as a huge hurdle for us, but we must respect that they are their own person. Understand that the other person has her/his own life ahead of them, they did not commit to be in a relationship with you to revolve around you.
#6
Choice
Although it’s going to be a rough patch for the both of you, always pick each other. Your relationship is up to your hands, if something happens, it is because you both chose it to happen. Always team up with your partner and decide to choose each other even there are more options.
I’m sure there are more ways to maintain a strong long-distance relationship and as long as you follow these six tips, I guarantee the possibility of being over the moon and achieving a happy ending with your far-away beau. See, distance is not a problem. The romance depends on you and your lover on how you two are going to handle it, so come on and hang on tight for a long way ride of a long-distance relationship.
