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If you both feel that love and respect are still intact, then, fret not! It is just a matter of falling in lust again with your partner; getting your partnership back in track; and rekindling your connection. (Unsplash photo)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

You and your partner or spouse have been in a long-term relationship. Somehow, along the years, the fizz has fizzled. Here\u2019s the universal truth: all relationships reach a tipping point of losing that giddiness experience. It may be down to spending too much time apart and neglecting each other. Life changes are also a main factor why you both lost that spark. Suddenly, you find yourselves asking the same questions from James Ingram\u2019s and Patti Austin\u2019s song: \u201cHow do you keep the music playing?\u201d, or \u201chow do you keep the song from fading too fast?\u201d, and \u00a0\u201chow do you not run out of new things to say?\u201d I totally \u201cheart\u201d this song!<\/p>\n

If you both feel that love and respect are still intact, then, fret not! It is just a matter of falling in lust again with your partner; getting your partnership back in track; and rekindling your connection. There\u2019s always a solution to everything in life. Let\u2019s be creative and find ways by using the 26 alphabet letters on how to keep the music playing in our relationships:<\/p>\n

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A<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014\u00a0Acceptance and Appreciation<\/strong>. Acceptance helps keep your relationship healthy. It makes it easier to treasure the good things about your partner leading you towards deeper intimacy and care for each other. Appreciation for each other is a key component in relationships. When you appreciate each other, you both feel good about what you do, and that makes a difference to your lives and strengthens your partnership.<\/p>\n

B<\/strong>\u00a0\u2014\u00a0Believing in each other.\u00a0<\/strong>When you believe in each other, you view your relationship as a place of comfort. This enhances your relations and makes it a happy one!<\/p>\n

C \u2014 Cuddle and Canoodle.\u00a0<\/strong>These two go hand in hand in terms of releasing oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone that helps couples feel closer, more loving, and affectionate towards each other.<\/p>\n

D \u2014 Date Nights.\u00a0<\/strong>Dress up and go on date nights at least once or twice a week. Date nights build resilience to carry your relationship during challenging times. It also reminds couples why they first fell in love and reignites passion.<\/p>\n

E \u2014 Evolve together.\u00a0<\/strong>Couples must be able to consciously commit to grow together as partners through many life changes. Remember that any changes you go through as a couple can simply be a crossroads moment in your relationship calling for a better way of relating together. Grow together through ups, downs, successes, and adversities.<\/p>\n

F \u2014 Fornicate and be\u00a0creative\u00a0with it.\u00a0<\/strong>Do lots of role-playing and dress in sexy costumes! Explore new positions outside your usual positions \u2014 if you both agree to it. Have phone sex. Touch each other constantly throughout the day. Do some sextings frequently. Be more adventurous \u2014 sex can take place outside the confines of your bedroom.<\/p>\n

G \u2014 Good grooming and hygiene.\u00a0<\/strong>I cannot stress enough how important this is! Shave. Shower. Smell delicious. Look delicious. Stay in shape! Get your Brazilian done! Go to your hygienist to have your teeth cleaned every three months!<\/p>\n

H \u2014 Honesty in partnership.\u00a0<\/strong>When\u00a0<\/strong>you\u00a0<\/strong>can be totally honest with each other, there\u2019s no cause for doubts or worries. It builds internal security that makes you both feel safe and happy together.<\/p>\n

I \u2014 Independence in relationship.\u00a0<\/strong>Never lose your real self. It\u2019s essential that you live your own life and continue to pursue your goals while in a relationship. It’s essential to have your own sense of autonomy while feeling you can depend on each other.<\/p>\n

J \u2014 Joke with each other.\u00a0<\/strong>Sense of humour can be the best thing in your relationship. LOL-ing together creates a stronger bond, overcomes the stresses you both face together, and increases happiness in your shared lives.<\/p>\n

K \u2014 Kissing and lots of it!\u00a0<\/strong>Did you know that kissing your partner can help you lose weight? When you kiss, it spikes the dopamine, which in turn helps you lose your appetite! Besides, how could you say no to a French kiss? Butterfly kiss? Eskimo kiss? Single lip kiss? Earlobe kiss? Lizard kiss? And yes, the famous Spider-Man kiss? Yummylicious!<\/p>\n

L \u2014 Learn your Love Languages.\u00a0<\/strong>Couples must learn and know their love languages. It serves as a solid framework for better communication and ways of expressing your love for each other. When you know each other\u2019s love languages, you are both able to love and recognize each other better. The five love languages are: Quality Time, Acts of Services, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts.<\/p>\n

M \u2014 Money matters.\u00a0<\/strong>A solid partnership involves a lot of future planning: buying a home, a car, your children\u2019s university education, vacations, retirement plans, and the list goes on. Money is crucial because where you spend it is going to dictate how you live, and how you achieve your goals together. Couples should play equal roles when it comes to finances. Money matters and how you handle your finances as a couple could either make or break your relationship.<\/p>\n

N \u2014 Nurture each other.\u00a0<\/strong>When you nurture each other, you care deeply for each other and help each other grow. It creates a mutually beneficial connection.<\/p>\n

O \u2014 Openness with each other.\u00a0<\/strong>When couples openly reveal their past, their present pursuits, and future plans, it fosters deeper connection and intimacy. By being open with each other, you are both able to take each other\u2019s feelings into account.<\/p>\n

P \u2014 Passion! Passion! Passion!\u00a0<\/strong>Indulge in long, lingering kisses. Have fun with playful foreplays. Have intense sex with each other. Embrace in public. Kiss each other in public.<\/p>\n

Q \u2014 Quality Time with each other.\u00a0<\/strong>When couples make quality time for each other, they are focused on each other and on improving their relationship. They take time to communicate with each other and be affectionate towards each other. They take the time to connect with each other.<\/p>\n

R \u2014 Respect for each other.\u00a0<\/strong>When you accept your partner for who they are, regardless of how different they are from you \u2014 it builds stronger connection, safety, and well-being.<\/p>\n

S \u2014 Surprise each other more often.\u00a0<\/strong>Leave sexy notes on the fridge. Buy him a sexy underwear. Pick him up at the office wearing nothing underneath your trench coat. Give each other long, sensuous massages on the spur of the moment.<\/p>\n

T \u2014 Trust is golden.\u00a0<\/strong>It is the key foundation in all relationships. Trusting each other means you can rely and depend on each other. You can confide and feel safe with each other.<\/p>\n

U \u2014 Understanding.\u00a0<\/strong>The willingness to understand each other is a salient feature in a romantic relationship. Understanding each other allows both of you to be free to be the individuals you both want to be without judgment. It allows both of you to see each other from each other\u2019s perspectives.<\/p>\n

V \u2014 Value each other.\u00a0<\/strong>When couples value each other, it means they acknowledge each other as individuals. They hold in high regard each other\u2019s contributions to the relationship. They think highly of each other\u2019s mind and soul which allows them to see and accept what each other brings to the table.<\/p>\n

W \u2014 Work on your partnership together.\u00a0<\/strong>Teamwork is critical to the success of your relationship. The more you help each other in improving your relationship, the stronger your bond will become. Working together to address your issues solidifies and enriches your partnership.<\/p>\n

X \u2014 Xoompin your relationship.\u00a0<\/strong>Xoompin means to drive over bumps on the road \u2014 that\u2019s how a strong and healthy connection should be. As a couple, you should both drive over any bumps in your relationship. You are both in control. Plus, you should both take turns on who gets to seat on the driver\u2019s seat!<\/p>\n

Y \u2014 Yearn for each other.\u00a0<\/strong>Yearning feeds physical intimacy which in turn feeds connection, nurturance, and the protective guard around relationships. Intimate relationships in which desire has faded can take on the shape of housemates or colleagues. You don\u2019t want that! It\u2019s like being friend-zoned. Ouch.<\/p>\n

Z \u2014 Zest up your relationship.\u00a0<\/strong>Be more adventurous as a couple. Blindfold each other and just enjoy touching each other. Go camping over the weekend even if it\u2019s just at your backyard! Go diving together. Make love in the car. Go skinny dipping together. Go for a picnic on top of a mountain overlooking a lake.<\/p>\n

If and when we do follow the above ways to keep the music playing in our relationships, then perhaps, just like the lyrics in the song \u2014 eventually, we will find that with any luck than we suppose \u2014 the music will never end. Don\u2019t ever lose hope. Together, you can both last till the end. For starters, always remember your vows to each other. Love never fails, it always wins!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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