{"id":201875,"date":"2019-02-14T03:08:52","date_gmt":"2019-02-14T08:08:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/?p=201875"},"modified":"2019-03-27T23:58:52","modified_gmt":"2019-03-28T03:58:52","slug":"6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Tips when you&#8217;re geographically separated with your beau"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-201875 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-full'><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/51263729_2169445593370131_7163395212184649728_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"720\" height=\"960\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51263729_2169445593370131_7163395212184649728_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202078\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51263729_2169445593370131_7163395212184649728_n.jpg 720w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51263729_2169445593370131_7163395212184649728_n-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51263729_2169445593370131_7163395212184649728_n-15x20.jpg 15w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202078'>\n\t\t\t\t3 yrs in LDR- Diane (Ph) &amp; Patrick (Italy) &#8220;In our relationship, trust is what we need to prolong our love and make it stronger.&#8221;\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1836\" height=\"1320\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202081\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n.jpg 1836w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n-300x216.jpg 300w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n-768x552.jpg 768w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n-1024x736.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51637186_298998797483092_8245813819310342144_n-20x14.jpg 20w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1836px) 100vw, 1836px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202081'>\n\t\t\t\tAldrea &amp; Chris (Canada)\n&#8220;Being in a long-distance relationship is hard but it taught us the definition of patience and to appreciate the moments spent together. It is a reminder that every day and second spent together is special and should be cherished. And, if you can love, trust, respect, and support each other you will find a way to make it work.&#8221;\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/51747357_2637443156473191_4861127080345075712_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"640\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51747357_2637443156473191_4861127080345075712_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202088\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51747357_2637443156473191_4861127080345075712_n.jpg 640w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51747357_2637443156473191_4861127080345075712_n-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51747357_2637443156473191_4861127080345075712_n-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51747357_2637443156473191_4861127080345075712_n-20x20.jpg 20w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202088'>\n\t\t\t\t5 yrs LDR, 11 yrs in a relationship- Jeia(Chicago) &amp; Oscar(San Diego, CA) &#8220;Respect is to truly understand your partner\u2019s needs, pains, fully accept each other\u2019s opinions and floss, and making the right decisions together that will only benefit the relationship.&#8221;\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/52063687_849983192060505_8336449869912735744_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"640\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52063687_849983192060505_8336449869912735744_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202082\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52063687_849983192060505_8336449869912735744_n.jpg 640w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52063687_849983192060505_8336449869912735744_n-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52063687_849983192060505_8336449869912735744_n-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52063687_849983192060505_8336449869912735744_n-20x20.jpg 20w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202082'>\n\t\t\t\tJonalyn(Ph) &amp; Ailo(sea) &#8220;Long-distance relationships entail a lot of love and trust, there will always be ups and downs but at the end of the day, still, it\u2019s your \u201cChoice\u201d to be in that relationship and its your decision to love the person and accept the reality that distance will always be part of your relationship.&#8221;\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/52089395_2504812139592442_7197090665140846592_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"540\" height=\"960\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52089395_2504812139592442_7197090665140846592_n.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202080\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52089395_2504812139592442_7197090665140846592_n.png 540w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52089395_2504812139592442_7197090665140846592_n-169x300.png 169w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52089395_2504812139592442_7197090665140846592_n-11x20.png 11w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 540px) 100vw, 540px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202080'>\n\t\t\t\t3 yrs in LDR- Martin(Canada) &amp; Pau(Ph) &#8220;Effort is the willingness to show how much you care for the person you love.&#8221;\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/52047596_2150676514975173_4389665449361539072_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"270\" height=\"555\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52047596_2150676514975173_4389665449361539072_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202079\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52047596_2150676514975173_4389665449361539072_n.jpg 270w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52047596_2150676514975173_4389665449361539072_n-146x300.jpg 146w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/52047596_2150676514975173_4389665449361539072_n-10x20.jpg 10w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 270px) 100vw, 270px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202079'>\n\t\t\t\t5 yrs in LDR- Reymar(Las Vegas) &amp; Margelli(Ph) &#8220;If there\u2019s no communication in a relationship, it\u2019s like not having a relationship at all.&#8221;\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2019\/02\/14\/6-tips-when-youre-geographically-separated-with-your-beau\/51877566_297840837589179_3326490520514985984_n\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"540\" height=\"480\" src=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51877566_297840837589179_3326490520514985984_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-202095\" srcset=\"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51877566_297840837589179_3326490520514985984_n.jpg 540w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51877566_297840837589179_3326490520514985984_n-300x267.jpg 300w, https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/51877566_297840837589179_3326490520514985984_n-20x18.jpg 20w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 540px) 100vw, 540px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<figcaption class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-202095'>\n\t\t\t\t2 months LDR, 5 yrs in a relationship- Alecs(Ph) &amp; Krizelle(Grand Cayman Islands) &#8220;Respect, it never stops. :&gt;&#8221;\n\t\t\t\t<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p>It takes two people to have the standard type of relationship, and if you\u2019re in a long-distance relationship or LDR, having a stable Wi-Fi connection is a must. Kidding aside although it makes a point, rather I meant strong foundation of trust is also a must. LDR is not so different than the normal relationship, the added challenge here is how you will keep each other while you&#8217;re geographically separated.<\/p>\n<p>To make it fun and exciting, I am giving TIPS to make sure you last together. #guaranteed and #tested by couples I asked in LDR, also from those who experienced it, A.K.A. me. So, here are some reads for you to turn things around and some rules we made that worked for us and could work for you.<\/p>\n<p>#1.<br \/>\n<strong>Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Trust is something that both parties build together for them to feel safe to rely on the other person. I know it&#8217;s hard to invest trust when you don&#8217;t see the person all the time but giving your one hundred percent trust to your significant other will solve almost all your problems to rise. Remember, the only acceptable secret to keep is when you\u2019re planning to surprise him\/her. Additional, keep each other updated with each activity and be transparent.\u00a0 NEVER ever lie. A wise man said, \u201cTell a lie once and all your truths become questionable.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>#2<br \/>\n<strong>Communication<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This is essential. No relationship (even non-LDR ones) will work if they don&#8217;t speak with each other. Always find time to communicate. If you are busy and can&#8217;t find time, just give a heads up to your partner that you can&#8217;t make it to your &#8220;babe time.&#8221; When you found the time to keep Skype alive, make sure you don&#8217;t just talk AT your partner, talk WITH him\/her. Always add spice to your topics, don\u2019t video call (VC) just because it\u2019s time to. \u00a0This is important; know the difference between the two. It can&#8217;t be a routine even if it&#8217;s scheduled. Keep in mind that there are also instances when it\u2019s acceptable to skip babe time, this time, let it go and don\u2019t pressure them. Even if you are far apart, overly clingy has bad sides too.<\/p>\n<p>#3<br \/>\n<strong>Effort<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Being there for the other person and making the effort to give time each day even on your busy days, shouldn\u2019t feel like it is a responsibility. Know each other\u2019s schedule so you can organize your time table. If you\u2019re receiving this kind of effort from your partner and it\u2019s CONSTANT, learn to appreciate this effort because it\u2019s A++. Remember, different locations could mean different time zones too and that means more efforts should be done from both ends. Efforts take a lot of work, but if it is to make your partner happy, it is worth it.<\/p>\n<p>#4<br \/>\n<strong>Patience<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Of course, you and your partner aren&#8217;t stuck with the distance, unless you prefer it. Plan your future, break down your goals\/bucket lists into short term, midterm and long term. This way when you target your goals, you can easily achieve them. One fun way is to talk about your next meet-ups, plan your trips and make to-do together lists. Positivity is the key, don\u2019t dwell on being away from each other, instead, I recommend to always look up to the day when you are meeting again.<\/p>\n<p>#5<br \/>\n<strong>Respect<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s never appropriate to tolerate disrespect from one because of \u201clove\u201d and this is one way to lead you to bye-byes when you do. Respect each other\u2019s differences, value each other\u2019s independence, set each other\u2019s boundaries and give each other freedom. Not being able to be with our partners physically may serve as a huge hurdle for us, but we must respect that they are their own person. Understand that the other person has her\/his own life ahead of them, they did not commit to be in a relationship with you to revolve around you.<\/p>\n<p>#6<\/p>\n<p><strong>Choice<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Although it\u2019s going to be a rough patch for the both of you, always pick each other. Your relationship is up to your hands, if something happens, it is because you both chose it to happen. Always team up with your partner and decide to choose each other even there are more options.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure there are more ways to maintain a strong long-distance relationship and as long as you follow these six tips, I guarantee the possibility of being over the moon and achieving a happy ending with your far-away beau. See, distance is not a problem. The romance depends on you and your lover on how you two are going to handle it, so come on and hang on tight for a long way ride of a long-distance relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It takes two people to have the standard type of relationship, and if you\u2019re in a long-distance relationship or LDR, &hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":44,"featured_media":202095,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[54365,3],"tags":[46495,54305,1316,54304],"class_list":["post-201875","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-instagram","category-lifestyle","tag-february","tag-long-distance-relationship","tag-love","tag-valentines","mauthors-arianne-grace-u-lacanilao","mauthors-philippine-canadian-inquirer"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201875","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/44"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=201875"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201875\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":207244,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201875\/revisions\/207244"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/202095"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=201875"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=201875"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=201875"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}