{"id":189033,"date":"2018-11-10T04:11:53","date_gmt":"2018-11-10T09:11:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/?p=189033"},"modified":"2018-11-10T04:11:53","modified_gmt":"2018-11-10T09:11:53","slug":"michelle-obama-miscarriage-used-ivf-conceive-girls","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/canadianinquirer.net\/v1\/2018\/11\/10\/michelle-obama-miscarriage-used-ivf-conceive-girls\/","title":{"rendered":"Michelle Obama had miscarriage, used IVF to conceive girls"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cAm I good enough? Yes I am.\u201d (File Photo<\/a>: Michelle Obama\/Facebook<\/a>)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

WASHINGTON \u2014 Michelle Obama says she felt alone after a miscarriage 20 years ago and she and Barack Obama underwent fertility treatments to conceive their two daughters, according to her upcoming memoir.<\/p>\n

In some of her most extensive public comments on her White House years, the former first lady also lets her fury fly over President Donald Trump’s \u201cbigotry and xenophobia\u201d \u2014 rhetoric, she wrote, that was \u201cdeliberately meant to stir up the wingnuts and kooks.\u201d<\/p>\n

But it’s her deeply personal account of her marriage to the future president that shed new light on the Ivy League-educated couple’s early struggle with issues of family, ambition and public life.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t going well,\u201d Mrs. Obama, 54, writes in \u201cBecoming,\u201d set for release Tuesday. The Associated Press purchased an early copy. \u201cWe had one pregnancy test come back positive, which caused us both to forget every worry and swoon with joy, but a couple of weeks later I had a miscarriage, which left me physically uncomfortable and cratered any optimism we felt.\u201d<\/p>\n

The Obamas opted for IVF, one form of assisted reproduction that typically involves removing eggs from a woman, fertilizing them with sperm in a lab, and implanting the resulting embryo. It costs thousands of dollars for every \u201ccycle,\u201d and many couples require more than one attempt.<\/p>\n

Mrs. Obama writes of being alone to administer herself shots to help hasten the process. Her \u201csweet, attentive husband\u201d was at the state legislature, \u201cleaving me largely on my own to manipulate my reproductive system into peak efficiency,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cBecoming\u201d is one of the most anticipated political books in memory, ranking at the top of Amazon’s bestsellers on Friday. That’s often the case with the memoirs of former first ladies, including Hillary Clinton and Laura Bush. But Mrs. Obama defied her exalted status in the annals of history by cultivating an image of a modern woman with whom many Americans would like to sip wine and chat.<\/p>\n

But until now, she’s not extensively shared so many details. Some family struggles, such as losing a baby, are known by millions of women.<\/p>\n

\u201cI felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them,\u201d the former first lady said in an interview broadcast Friday on ABC’s \u201cGood Morning America.\u201d \u201cWe sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken.\u201d<\/p>\n

Mrs. Obama, said they underwent fertilization treatments to conceive daughters Sasha and Malia, now 17 and 20.<\/p>\n

She also writes about falling in love. The Obamas met at the Chicago law firm Sidley Austin LLP, and Michelle was skeptical at first. But she was then impressed by his \u201crich, even sexy baritone\u201d and by his \u201cstrange, stirring combination\u201d of serenity and power.<\/p>\n

Their first kiss set off a \u201ctoppling blast of lust, gratitude, fulfilment, wonder,\u201d she wrote.<\/p>\n

Confronting racism in public life \u2014 being the first black first lady, wife of the nation’s first black president \u2014 has been a bracing experience, in Mrs. Obama’s telling. She agonized over what she feared was a cartoonish, racist image. She remembered being labeled \u201cangry\u201d and, by the Fox network, \u201cObama’s Baby Mama.\u201d<\/p>\n

In the White House, she knew she would be labeled \u201cother\u201d and would have to earn the aura of \u201cgrace\u201d given freely to her white predecessors. She found confidence in repeating to herself a favourite chant: \u201cAm I good enough? Yes I am.\u201d<\/p>\n

In the memoir, Mrs. Obama lets loose a blast of anger at Trump.<\/p>\n

She writes that Trump’s questioning of whether her husband was an American citizen was \u201ccrazy and mean-spirited\u201d \u2014 and \u201cdangerous.\u201d Trump suggested Obama was not born in the U.S. but on foreign soil \u2014 his father was Kenyan. The former president was born in Hawaii.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat if someone with an unstable mind loaded a gun and drove to Washington? What if that person went looking for our girls?\u201d she writes in the memoir. \u201cDonald Trump, with his loud and reckless innuendos, was putting my family’s safety at risk. And for this, I’d never forgive him.\u201d<\/p>\n

As he left for Paris Friday, Trump chose not to respond to the former first lady, telling reporters, \u201cOh, I guess she wrote a book. She got paid a lot of money to write a book and they always insisted you come up with controversial.\u201d Trump instead changed the subject to his predecessor, Barack Obama, saying, \u201cI’ll never forgive him\u201d for making the country \u201cvery unsafe.\u201d<\/p>\n

Mrs. Obama also expresses disbelief over how so many women would choose a \u201cmisogynist\u201d over Clinton in 2016. She remembers how her body \u201cbuzzed with fury\u201d after seeing the infamous \u201cAccess Hollywood\u201d tape, in which Trump brags about sexually assaulting women.<\/p>\n

She also accuses Trump of using body language to \u201cstalk\u201d Clinton during an election debate. She writes of Trump following Clinton around the stage, standing nearby and \u201ctrying to diminish her presence.\u201d<\/p>\n

Mrs. Obama launches her promotional tour Tuesday not at a bookstore, but at Chicago’s United Center, where tens of thousands of people have purchased tickets \u2014 from just under $30 to thousands of dollars \u2014 to attend the event moderated by Oprah Winfrey.<\/p>\n

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